The Encounter in the Canteen
As my plate emptied, I felt afraid. Afraid of letting her go. So, I told Niels, who had already finished eating, that I would like to stay a bit longer to digest the food – and to take a chance...
The girls finished eating and also sat at the table for a while. When the time came and they stood up to leave the cafeteria, I gave Niels a signal that we could go now. After returning the dirty dishes, our paths diverged at two different exits. But I couldn't bring myself to push the door open because time seemed to stand still for a moment. Many questions arose: How could I just let her go? We were meant for each other! God had granted my long-awaited wish last night, but why did he let us go different ways? Did I have to intervene in my fate myself? How far was she already from me? Could I still find her?
I knew I was facing a decision; a decision that could change my life. No! I wouldn't go through that door. I quickly turned around and ran in another direction - towards her. Niels followed me. Fortunately, she wasn't too far away yet, so I could spot her in the crowd.
“Wait!” I called out to her as I caught up with her.
“Oh my God!” she reacted, surprised.
I was very excited. Interestingly, it was a new kind of excitement. An excitement that had nothing to do with approaching a young stranger woman to ask if we could get to know each other. No, no, this excitement existed because I firmly believed that the woman standing in front of me was the one I would spend my life with.
“Alexander is my name!” I said kindly and reached out my hand.
“Julia,” she replied with the friendliest smile in the universe and shook my hand, which I held for a few seconds and discreetly stroked with my thumb. While doing so, I looked into her beautiful blue eyes and noticed how they sparkled.
We left the cafeteria together through the main exit and got to know each other a little. She asked me many questions, and everything I answered seemed to trigger joyful interest in her. When we arrived at the Faculty of Civil Engineering, we exchanged phone numbers and said goodbye. Behind Julia, two guys were sitting, grinning at me. One of them gave me a thumbs up. Apparently, he really enjoyed my conversation with her. I couldn't handle so much dopamine at once, but I tried to continue behaving normally. I was speechless at the thought of meeting such a wonderful girl, especially after the horoscope prediction and my prayer to God. It became clear to me in that moment: It didn't feel like a coincidence. It felt like a real intervention from God in my life. Full of joy, I took Gogi's cross out of my sweater and kissed it.
In the subsequent lectures, I was more focused than ever! After all, I was firmly convinced that I had achieved one of my life goals. This gave me the impetus to pursue my studies with renewed zeal. My motivation diverged positively on the timeline.
At the end of the day, on the way home on the train, I sent my first WhatsApp message to her. Her joy, expressed through countless emojis, was unmistakable. When I arrived home, she shared something with me that further intensified my happiness, and shortly afterwards, her mother wrote to me and expressed her excitement to meet me soon.
It all happened so quickly that I felt like we were already in a relationship in no time – meant for each other – even though neither of us had ever been in a relationship before.
On a Monday, we met at the main train station and made our way to the university together. We talked about various things, and neither of us looked at our phones even once. Honestly, I hadn't experienced that before; in turn, it showed a lot of respect and interest. In the S-Bahn, just before getting off, I lightly touched her hand, which she held onto one of the seats, and left the train, letting it continue.
After the two-hour lecture, I was on my way to the library to work on an assignment that was due by twelve o'clock. But – perhaps by apparent coincidence – I saw Julia coming towards me. Immediately, the assignment was forgotten. I suggested we take a walk through the park together. She agreed but made sure to ask if I could really skip my assignment for this.
“I have everything under control,” I replied with a slightly ironic tone, and we set off for the park.
It was a wonderful, warm, and sunny day in October. She was a person with whom you could talk about things that were not everyday. We didn't just talk, no, we philosophized about God and the world; about love and death. Her depth and melancholy fascinated me greatly. She was a person from whom I could learn a lot. Her words were wise, and her gentle voice sounded like a beautiful melody in my ears.
Occasionally, we sat down on a bench without interrupting the conversation. In brief moments, we simply remained silent and enjoyed the vegetation and the sun, which cast its warm rays through the leaves of the trees onto us. I asked Julia if she could give me her hand. Without hesitation, she placed her hand in mine, which I then firmly held with my second hand and directed my gaze towards the sun. After a long time, my ice-cold hands felt warmth again. I wished I could freeze this moment forever. But the hours passed like a breeze – and she had to leave.
With my emotional and direct sexual desire for her, I drove her away forever. She didn't want to hear from me anymore and also blocked my phone number.
Weeks of sadness and lovesickness lay ahead of me. I wanted to win Julia back. But since I couldn't write to her anymore, I asked her mother if she would help me in any way. She comforted me briefly and said that Julia now had a new boyfriend. The lovesickness would pass, she assured me.
Future Learnings from this Phase of Life:
- The desperate search for a relationship does not help me find a partner faster and affects my other activities. This also applies to all other conceivable desperate attempts to achieve something.
- If I want to be more social, I should avoid video games and Let's Plays, especially at the beginning of my studies, as social interaction with fellow students is crucial for the success of my studies.
- When I do something completely new or develop something (like a new summation symbol), I will always encounter a lot of skepticism and criticism. Therefore, I should not immediately discard the new.
- I need to learn not to rely on the horoscope or other external circumstances.
- I should be more patient. I should give my new partner time. Similar to a flower, love also needs time to flourish. That probably won't happen overnight!